Ask A Psychic

Image by permission of Linda Allen Wooten.

As a psychic and a psychic medium I get asked a lot of questions.  Periodically, I work some of those questions into my blog, as they can help others.

Our first question comes from Helen Taft.  How can you become more in tune with the spirit realm?  First and foremost, one of the biggest keys to do meditation.  It's the number one tool in hearing, seeing and feeling answers, whether those answers are from your spirit guides, guardian angels, loved ones that have crossed over, or answers from God to your prayers.  Second, you must learn to trust what you are getting in signs.  As you get signs, acknowledge them, and don't use your logical mind to explain them away.

April Hurley wants to know why some really good people have such long and hurtful roads and mountains to climb? Is it karma or their past?  There are many factors that play into reasons why anyone has hard roads and difficult situations to deal with.  Sometimes it would seem that some have it harder than others, and there are those that it appears to have a cake walk.  Before we incarnate on earth, we choose certain life lessons to learn, we even make agreements with other souls who will participate in those lessons.  There are karmic issues that come up for people, and past "punishments" it would seem.  The thing we must all recognize is that when things are going smoothly, we don't learn a lot of from that.  We do, however, have more of tendency to take a harder look at things when they become difficult.  When a person starts to awaken spiritually, and realize that difficult times means there's a life lesson involved, they then start to realize sooner and even learn the lessons sooner.  But there are equally as many people who never awaken spiritually, and that does not take away the life lessons, it just means you're not realizing why you're going through certain things, and may or may not learn the lesson. If the lesson is not learned, it will continue to come up over and over again.

What's the difference between spirit guides and guardian angels is the question for Susan Morea.  You might think there is no difference, but in reality there is a difference.  Guardian angels have never incarnated as a human on earth, but they are tasked with guiding and protecting those on earth.  Spirit guides can have incarnated on earth, and some are so evolved that they have not incarnated in a very long time.  Remember, time is a linear thing in this third dimension, it doesn't apply in the spirit realm.

Catherine Petit has provided a picture with many spirits behind her friend.

How can we contact our spirit guides, and how do you know it's not our mind just playing tricks on us, asks Sharon Bradford Englerth.  Contact with our spirit guides is for the most part done, or at least started by doing meditations.  You ask to meet your spirit guides, and you learn to see, hear, and feel their presence.  Once you've gained a trust of how they feel, what they sound like to you, and even how you see them, you then realize that it's not your mind.  The mind playing tricks is often mistaken for true guidance, and therefore the guidance is missed out on. After practice of asking questions and getting answers, and learning to trust those answers is something that comes with time.

Robin M. Plante wants to know if we are reunited with loved ones, especially children that pass before the adults.  Some people worry that if we reincarnate that we might miss a loved one, or a child that has gone to heaven before we get there. I've been shown over and over again that there is "part" of us that always remains in heaven.  If you understand the Holy Trinity, God the father, the son, and the holy spirit, it is much like this.  There is a higher-self that always remains in heaven.  When a "son", or portion that incarnates on earth, goes back to heaven, that person/personality, love and all the things that go with that is there to be with and reunited with the loved ones that come to heaven later.  You will know them, and recognize them, as they come to you as the person you knew them to be on earth.

As associated with the death of a person, Michael Cox, would like to know if it is common to "know" the moment that someone passes from earth.  This is a very common thing for people that have emotional connections and bonds. For instance, you hear of a mother being on the east coast, and her child is half way across the country, and she's awakened in the middle of the night thinking of her child, and finds out that the child was in a horrific accident.  It's not only common to know when someone passes, but when some event happens.  The bonds are like cords running between the people, and when something happens to a person that you have that kind of strong connection to, you do feel it, hear it, or even see it.

Barbara Spano Costante has shared with a picture with what appears to be a spirit holding a hand.

Street lights going off and then coming back on, is this a spirit doing this, and is it common?  Lori Robinson Ellis, if you can factor out that the street light is not shorting, then yes, it could be a spirit.  Spirits are able to use their energy to manipulate electrical things. I've even heard and experienced them turning on appliance, tvs, radios, things of that nature.  Early in my psychic awareness I turned a light on in the bathroom of my home, when I went to go out and turn the light off, it wouldn't go off.  I stood there dumbfounded for a few minutes, and listened, and was told that my gifts would be coming in stronger over the next few months.  So as to your question is it common, the resounding answer to that is yes.

Mary Sirakoulis wants to know if she has gifts, of a psychic nature?  I like to explain to people the way it has been explained to me through my spirit guides.  When God said he created man in his image, he didn't mean in the body, a physical likeness.  He meant with a spiritual likeness, and ability. In other words, when he said, let there be light, and there was light.  We have the same type of ability.  This power has been suppressed for thousands of years.  Why you might wonder?  Well, if all people know they have the ability to manifest and create what they want in their lives then they can't be controlled, and manipulated.  In recent times there have been people coming out and explaining this particular gift, calling it The Secret, The Law of Attraction, are good examples.  We can not only manifest things in our lives, but we have the ability to listen for guidance. You know, like when you hear that little voice that says, it's going to rain today, even though the sun is shining and the weather man says sun all day.  Then it rains.  Or you hear, don't take this road, it's going to be backed up, and you take it anyway, and the road is backed up.  When you start listening to that little voice, it gets louder.  Mary, you have gifts, you need to embrace them as your own, and become in tune with your guides, and you will be surprised and excited about what they show you.

Along the same line, Kim Pelletier, wants to know if there is a way to develop the skills.  Yes, there is.  Kim as I mentioned earlier, meditation is the key.  Now, whether you call it psychic, intuitive, psychic medium, I don't' particular like the term "fortune teller", too many negative connotations with that one.  It's been called seer and prophet.  The terms are changed with the times, but you get the idea.  Another really good thing to do is sit in a development circle or group, and to take workshops.  Depending on what your local area is, you can find workshops.  Sometimes it's fun to travel and take a whole weekend workshop.  If you have a group of friends, you create  development circle, which can be a lot of fun as well.  But never forget the your best tool is meditation.

Anniece Brown Andress has an orb, or spirit streaking through her forehead, thank you for sharing this.

Do we really have guardian angels? And if we do, is it only one, or many?  And are they family members that have passed from earth, inquires Suzette Dubois.  You've asked so many good ones here, Suzette.  Yes, we have guardian angels.  The way I explain this is, each of us has a team.  We have guardian angels, spirit guides, and loved ones that have passed.  Now, depending on what is going on in your life as to which one steps up for you.  They always try to guide us and show us the right direction to go in.  But we live in a free will zone, and they are forbidden from taking that away from us.  In order to "help" us with a situation, we have to ask them. Where they are allowed to step in without permission is if you are going to be in some event that causes death, and you have a purpose and the death would be untimely to meeting that purpose, they go out of their way to make sure that doesn't happen.  Loved ones can help us, either by us calling on them, or them seeing something that is going on that you are struggling with, and they try to let you know "which door to choose".  If a person is determined to make bad choices, they won't interfere with that.  Sometimes the way to learn the lesson is to actually step in it to know that it really is a big pile.  So, envision that you have an entire team working for and with you, and don't hesitate to call on them for help, guidance, and assistance, that's after all what they are there for.

Jody Pibil has shared that there have two years sober, and recovery, would like to know what grammy feels about addiction and recovery.  First, congratulations on your two years, and thank you for sharing it with us.  Grammy is proud of you.  Now, let me speak in general about addiction and recovery.  These can be attached to life lessons to any type of addiction.  In life there seem to be some addictions that are more acceptable than others.  Each of us has something that we can be addicted to, some addictions do more harm than others.  There are those that are psychological and therefore doing psychological damage.  And of course, there are the ones that are physically addicting as well as psychological.  Alcohol, substances, cigarettes, just to name a few.  No matter what the addiction, you need to take a look at it, ask yourself, what am I supposed to be learning from this. How can I change this? There is nothing wrong with needing help, asking for support, both spiritual support from your team (as discussed in the previous paragraph), or from people that are here on earth.  But make sure when you get people to help and support, that you are getting the right ones.  Ones that enable you to keep going with the addiction aren't necessarily the ones that can help you recover.  Learn the life lesson and then it will make recovery easier.

And I'd like to thank Cyndi Koerner for our closing picture of a beautiful sunset.

When someone passes can they see our entire lives, or just from the time of their passing? Kathy McFarland Milligan has asked a very good question.  Of course, people that pass go through their own life review, and so that encompasses people they've interacted with.  They can feel or know, so to speak, what it feels like to stand in the other person's shoes in situations.  Instead of having a front linear view of what has gone on, they are able to see a 360 degree view from all angles, and how each person felt in the situations.  They gain perspective that they didn't have when they were on earth.  They also have the ability to see things that are currently going on in their loved ones lives, and even the things that will show up in the future.  If they think they can be of some sort of help in those things, they will try to guide in the right direction, but without interfering with free-will.  And events that people believe their loved ones in heaven are missing, they are not missing, they can see them, and oftentimes show up and give signs that they are there.

As always, I've enjoyed answering your questions, as they can pertain to many people.  If you are interested in having a psychic reading, or a psychic medium reading, get in touch.  You can look at my website, www.heavencallingearth.com, email pam@heavencallingearth.com; or call to set up an appointment.  Until next time, I send you love and light.

Ask Psychic Medium Pam Jenkins Questions

It's been a while, so hello.  I've missed you and missed writing for you.  As I'm sure you've guessed, it's been pretty busy.  After putting it out there on the Heaven Calling Earth fan page on Facebook, I found that there are quite a number of questions people would like to have answered about psychic readings, and psychic medium readings and the information that has come through to me through the years.  The answers that I share here or from the years of doing readings, and through meditation.  As always, take with you what resonates, and just leave the rest.

"What are our loved ones seeing, and what are their surroundings?" Susan Mores.

Susan, this is a very good question.  The surroundings seem to change with individuals.  When they first arrive, there is usually a very bright light.  Then it would seem that our "earthly" belief system kicks in for a little while. In other words, if you have a belief that you are going to go through some pearly gates, you will see those, or if you believe there is a big meadow, then that will be your first experiences.  Then the longer one is on the other side, there is a "life" there as well, and it conforms to helping the soul grow.

"Can they hear us talking to them?" Remember, they are in the spirit realm now, so they can hear us when we speak out loud to them, and they can hear it when we think of them.  You know, like when you are having a conversation in your head.  I have people say to the effect, I'd like to make a phone call to heaven.  Well, when you have a psychic medium reading, in essence you are making a phone call to heaven.  When you set that intention in place, you are calling on your spirit guides, guardian angels and loved ones that have crossed over, and letting them know you have this planned.  I have found that in quite a large number of cases, the loved ones that have crossed over are the ones who have guided people to me in the first place. So, I would say they are well aware of your intention and desire to communicate with them.

"What signs do you look for to know if your child has psychic abilities, and how do you teach them to embrace it, versus being afraid or shutting it down?"  Freida Waugh.  A good question indeed.  First, we are all born with some degree of psychic abilities.  I call it our internal GPS.  That gut feeling, that knowing.  But there are some that are more psychic than others.  Key indicators that you are dealing with a child that is very psychic, or even psychic medium are sometimes the same types of signs that a child is an old soul.  A child that tells you a relative that has passed away before the child was born can be a sign, the child telling you they know the person, recognizes pictures of the person, or says this person comes to visit them.  Also, a child that is able to look at situations and very casually give an analysis or a solution to an issue that even an adult fails to see.  Most children do not even realize that they are seeing things (people that have crossed over) that others can't see until they are told that the others around them don't see what they see.  And along that same line, they don't know to be afraid of it, unless that fear is shown to them, or taught to them in some form or fashion.  Children that grow up around people who embrace these things have it easier than children who have people telling them it's wrong, or it's a sin.  Then the fear factor comes in, and the shutting down.  Teaching them to meditate as young as possible is always a good thing.

"What is heaven like, is it clouds, sunshine? Do we really know what it's like?" These questions have been asked many times and in many different ways.  The answer to this is very complex.  Is heaven in the clouds?  It is in the clouds, but it's further away than that, and yet closer than that at the same time.  As children we all have probably thought of God and the angels sitting in the clouds.  We've all looked the clouds and seen different shapes of things, and at some point it has been a message for us.  There is the spirit realm that co-exists with us, but in a different dimension, if you will.  But there's also the spiritual realm that's out in the Universe and the heavens that's out there beyond the clouds.   A statement that I was given one night while laying and contemplating, It's everywhere and yet it's nowhere, it's beside us, and yet a million miles away.  We are given answers like this because in our human language there are not words to completely and totally describe it in its entirety.

"What age are people that are in heaven?" Lone Vinding Malast.  In the psychic readings and psychic medium readings that I have done for people, the loved ones come across as the age they were when the left this earth so that their family and friends will recognize them.  We have bodies on earth, and they show themselves in these bodies (suit of clothes) when communicating with me.  That's merely to allow themselves to be recognized.  Also another element that is used is their personalities, their likes and dislikes.  The soul age is a different matter than the physical age that is on earth.  There are times when a person will feel as though a younger age of themselves would be more recognizable so they will come in that age.  But in heaven or the spirit realm we have no need for a physical body, that's an earth thing.

"Nana said 3:33, 12:12, and 1:11 means an ancestor is with you." Kathy Mallory.  This may well be the case.  I don't argue over a person's beliefs, because it is their truth, which is taught to them in their culture.  Different cultures mean there are different meanings to things.  I do know that seeing numbers in repetition also means there is a synchronicity that is happening.  Our relatives and ancestors do visit, and they do so more often than most people think.

And to finish off the edition of the blog, I give you an image of the word Believe.  "What signs do we look for?" as asked by Kellie Wilkins-Dorn.  Our loved ones give us many different kinds of signs.  They are able to manipulate energy, because we are energy.  Light bulbs flickering on and off, or burning out.  Causing a certain song to be played on the radio or tv.  They can make us feel a physical touch somewhere on our body.  Another one that they use frequently is our sense of smell.  You will smell a cologne, or cigarette smoke, or a particular type of tobacco that no one uses, except the loved one in heaven.  These are just a few of the signs that are used.  I encourage to you acknowledge your loved one's presence.  By doing so they know you're paying attention and will give you more.  Always remember, life doesn't end with death on earth, it just means it's beginning again in another dimension that we call heaven.  

If you're interested in booking an appointment for a reading, whether that is a psychic reading, or a psychic medium reading, you can contact me through email, pam@heavencallingearth.com, visit the website, www.heavencallingearth.com.  Don't forget to follow us on Facebook, and Twitter. 

When to Have a Reading

  To have a reading or not to have a reading.  Some are not sure if they want  a reading, or even if it will help.  Then there are those who would like to, but it goes against their religious beliefs, and they're not quite sure if they will end up in hell if they do.  Let me state outright, my purpose is not to put anyone's religion down.  We all have the right to believe what we choose, and should be able to do that without anyone judging it.  I would like to state that my personal belief is that all religions have a foundation in truth.  Not only do they all have a foundation in truth, but rooted in love, compassion and understanding.  Through years of man's interpretations those foundations have drastically changed.  It's kind of like reading a book, and telling someone what you think the author meant when he wrote it.  If you ask ten different people, you are likely to get different interpretations.  So, on the aspect as it applies to having a reading because of what your religious views are, I say, if it feels right to you, then have one.  I can assure you that there is no punishment for having a session.  You won't be arrested, no ads in the newspaper are taken out to let others know you have done it.

  Now, I would like to address timing of having a reading.  If you have lost a loved one, and you are hoping to connect with them there is no specific amount of time that must be waited out before you can have a session, or that you will be able to get through to them.  As for the timing on your end is another factor to be considered.  When someone passes people are in a great deal of pain from the loss, and very emotional.  This is normal and won't hinder the contact, but you may have a better experience if you wait a little bit until you have time to adjust per se.  Not that we ever adjust to being without someone we love and care about, but the emotions will calm down.  This is a very personal thing, and for each individual it may be different.  My opinion on this is to go when it feels right to you.  I have souls come through to me right after having left this dimension, before there has even been a memorial service.  Whether you decide to have a reading right after, or wait a period of time, a session with a good medium usually brings through some very comforting information.

  How about if you are going through a life situation, such as a financial situation, or the break up of a relationship, or you are having a medical issue?  Is this a good time to have a reading?  The answer to that question purely depends on whether or not you do your research and find a reputable genuine psychic to do the reading for you.  All too often people don't do enough research and end up having a session with a charlatan or a scammer.  When you are going through a situation like any of the ones I have mentioned, you are vulnerable.  The charlatan can smell it, and they will use it to their advantage.  They can end up doing more harm than good in these cases.  If you have gotten a referral from a friend, or you have researched, a reading can be very helpful.  Read my previous blog about signs that you are being scammed.  When you have a session with a reputable psychic, or psychic medium he or she can help you quite a bit.  But rest assured a genuine psychic, or psychic medium will never try to make you dependent on them.  They never tell you must return to them, or that you should buy some expensive item to get rid of whatever is going on.  A suggestion may be made about doing meditation, or attending a workshop.  Or you may even be referred to someone who does genuine healing work.

  All in all, whatever the reason for having a reading, be it to speak with a loved one who had died on the earthly plane, or any type of life situation, the most important aspect is doing your research, or get a good referral from someone you trust.  Psychic readings and or psychic medium readings are very helpful in many different ways to many people.  Only you know if the time is right for you.  There is no specific time that is better than another to have a reading.  The most important part is getting someone to do your reading that is working in the light, and only has your best interest at heart.