Answers About the Afterlife: Discussion Three, Questions About Death and Dying

   We know that the way we think of dying isn't really dying at all, it's simply moving to another dimension, if you will.  The spirit plane, or the heavenly realm are two names I personally like to use.  Here on earth we consider it dying because we no longer have a body and are no longer able to see with our "eyes" the person who has "died".  

  Our soul never dies. We are not humans with a soul, we are souls who are experiencing being human.  There's a big difference.  Our consciousness is the spirit, or is the soul, and it goes on for ETERNITY. So, what is it that determines when  and how we "die"?  There are so many elements that go into this.  Before we are born, the way I like to explain it, (as it has been shown to me over and over again), we sit down with a "guidance counselor", an elder,  our team of spirit guides, and we decide what are going to experience in this lifetime.  What are the life lessons we wish to learn? When we decide the lessons, we also make agreements with other souls to experience certain lessons with them.  This is  why we come in contact with some people and we feel a certain magnetism, or draw to that person.  It's because recognize the soul, even if we don't actually recognize the person.  It's that feeling of, I've known you forever.  In reality, you have known them forever. We travel in soul groups and we change up the relationships we have the souls, depending on the lessons and the agreements we make prior to incarnating in any given lifetime.  As hard as it may be to imagine, we make choices to experience certain illnesses, or to have certain trauma come into our lives, so we have the experience of it, and see how we handle it.  It's all about choices that we make and how we handle those things that show up.

  Don't get weighted down with the idea that only thing we are here to do is learn lessons.  We also incarnate to enjoy life itself.  As you know though, deciding to enjoy it is a personal choice.  I know you've probably run across a person or two in your life who is perfectly happy being miserable.  They wouldn't know how to behave if they didn't have something to complain about.  That aside, we can as souls decide that we are going to be happy and really enjoy what we have been gifted with. 

 There are souls who are here for the primary purpose of helping other in reaching their goals and life lessons.  This is a reason why soul stays is to help another. Another factor in death and dying is opportunity. There are situations where a death can occur, but a spirit guide steps in and stops it because the souls has other things to accomplish while they are here. I can personally attest to this, because I've had a number of time when I've walked away from a situation that was surprising.  I will share one with you now just so you can get a feel for what I'm talking about. Back in 1993 I was in an automobile accident.  I was making a left turn out of a shopping center on a very busy local road.  After I looked both ways, I proceeded to make the turn, and a BIG concrete truck that I didn't see came flying over the hill.  He hit my car in the front (driver's side) quarter panel.  The car was brand new. We get the car off the road into the shopping center. A state trooper shows up to investigate the accident.  At the moment I wasn't feeling any pain, was just sort of stunned.  Well, the driver of the concrete truck was pacing back and forth, and very nervous and upset.  He knew how bad the accident could have been.  The driver's door, mine, was missed with less than twelve inches to spare.  Had he hit the door, I would not be here telling you this story.  Well, I could hear as the trooper was questioning him.  He kept saying, "Something turned the wheel of the truck.  Really, something turned the wheel of the truck. I don't know what or who it was."  He was probably coming too fast over the hill, but I was charged because he clearly had the right of way.  But that didn't happen until after the trooper finished giving him field sobriety tests to be sure he wasn't under the influence.  The poor guy was so shaken, I really felt bad for him.  Had the car not been brand new it would have been considered totaled by the insurance company.  There was 12,000 worth of damage to the car, and yes, my insurance company cancelled my insurance after the accident. Having experienced a few times in my life where there was Divine intervention, I wasn't as shocked or as confused as the truck driver.  I knew by this point, I am well protected.  There was a knowing that God has some things planned for me that required me staying on earth for a while.  Don't get me wrong, I don't go out here and intentionally put myself in harms way, but this is not by far the only thing I've ever been through that I might not have walked away from without those special protections.  

  Another thing that plays into our death and the timing of is is our own free will.  There have many people where the doctors say, oh, he has three months, she has two weeks; only to be proven wrong by the person who is just not ready yet. In the most dire of situations one can have a strong will to live and it override what is a possible out for them.  

People often ask about karma, or the reap what you sow factor.  There is some of that involved in our lives and we can't minimize it's effects on our lives. We should all try to live by the rule, do unto others as we would have them do unto us.  I've also been asked a number of time if a loved one felt pain during their death.  This is a troubling prospect for many. I've been told and shown that when death is imminent, that the spirit guide or loved one there to meet the person, brings them out before the pain can be felt. I've also been told they don't feel fear or anxiety with it.  Sometimes people who have had a near death experience will feel pain when they return to the body, but not during the "death" portion of it. I hope that makes sense to you.  

 

  There are others who wish to know if death is dark and scary. Our beliefs can play a part in what we see when we first arrive on the spirit plane.  This is why we have soul family that meets us, to help us transition to Light.  Once a person transitions they no longer feel the pain of any illness or trauma that they have experienced.  They can, however, feel our sadness and grief.  Our loved ones can visit us in dreams, and they can make their presence known to us during our waking hours.  One thing I have seen over and over again that blocks this is the pain of the person grieving.  We never stop missing our loved ones, but we can allow our pain wall to recede so they can make the connection with us.  Grieving is a process, and it is a very individual thing.  I've dealt with people who missed a loved one after they were gone, but they knew that the soul was a very good place so they didn't have a pain wall at all.  And I've seen the other end of the spectrum, where someone had died ten years before and it was as though it had just happened and the person's pain wall was so high that I could physically feel it.

   I'd like to close this particular discussion with the fact that we are able to communicate with our loved one in spirit.  You can do so through a gifted psychic medium by having  a reading.  But also to let you know that you can communicate directly with your loved ones.  They can hear you when you speak aloud to them, as well as when you think of them. If you get a sign from a loved one, acknowledge it.  We have a tendency to logically explain away the signs they bring us.  If something happens, a song comes on the radio, you smell a certain scent, you see something that was special to a loved one and the first thought that pops into your head is of a specific loved one, just acknowledge that it is from them. When you do this, you will start to see more signs and feel their presence even more.  Remember, we don't die, we just move to a new location.

Ask A Psychic

Image by permission of Linda Allen Wooten.

As a psychic and a psychic medium I get asked a lot of questions.  Periodically, I work some of those questions into my blog, as they can help others.

Our first question comes from Helen Taft.  How can you become more in tune with the spirit realm?  First and foremost, one of the biggest keys to do meditation.  It's the number one tool in hearing, seeing and feeling answers, whether those answers are from your spirit guides, guardian angels, loved ones that have crossed over, or answers from God to your prayers.  Second, you must learn to trust what you are getting in signs.  As you get signs, acknowledge them, and don't use your logical mind to explain them away.

April Hurley wants to know why some really good people have such long and hurtful roads and mountains to climb? Is it karma or their past?  There are many factors that play into reasons why anyone has hard roads and difficult situations to deal with.  Sometimes it would seem that some have it harder than others, and there are those that it appears to have a cake walk.  Before we incarnate on earth, we choose certain life lessons to learn, we even make agreements with other souls who will participate in those lessons.  There are karmic issues that come up for people, and past "punishments" it would seem.  The thing we must all recognize is that when things are going smoothly, we don't learn a lot of from that.  We do, however, have more of tendency to take a harder look at things when they become difficult.  When a person starts to awaken spiritually, and realize that difficult times means there's a life lesson involved, they then start to realize sooner and even learn the lessons sooner.  But there are equally as many people who never awaken spiritually, and that does not take away the life lessons, it just means you're not realizing why you're going through certain things, and may or may not learn the lesson. If the lesson is not learned, it will continue to come up over and over again.

What's the difference between spirit guides and guardian angels is the question for Susan Morea.  You might think there is no difference, but in reality there is a difference.  Guardian angels have never incarnated as a human on earth, but they are tasked with guiding and protecting those on earth.  Spirit guides can have incarnated on earth, and some are so evolved that they have not incarnated in a very long time.  Remember, time is a linear thing in this third dimension, it doesn't apply in the spirit realm.

Catherine Petit has provided a picture with many spirits behind her friend.

How can we contact our spirit guides, and how do you know it's not our mind just playing tricks on us, asks Sharon Bradford Englerth.  Contact with our spirit guides is for the most part done, or at least started by doing meditations.  You ask to meet your spirit guides, and you learn to see, hear, and feel their presence.  Once you've gained a trust of how they feel, what they sound like to you, and even how you see them, you then realize that it's not your mind.  The mind playing tricks is often mistaken for true guidance, and therefore the guidance is missed out on. After practice of asking questions and getting answers, and learning to trust those answers is something that comes with time.

Robin M. Plante wants to know if we are reunited with loved ones, especially children that pass before the adults.  Some people worry that if we reincarnate that we might miss a loved one, or a child that has gone to heaven before we get there. I've been shown over and over again that there is "part" of us that always remains in heaven.  If you understand the Holy Trinity, God the father, the son, and the holy spirit, it is much like this.  There is a higher-self that always remains in heaven.  When a "son", or portion that incarnates on earth, goes back to heaven, that person/personality, love and all the things that go with that is there to be with and reunited with the loved ones that come to heaven later.  You will know them, and recognize them, as they come to you as the person you knew them to be on earth.

As associated with the death of a person, Michael Cox, would like to know if it is common to "know" the moment that someone passes from earth.  This is a very common thing for people that have emotional connections and bonds. For instance, you hear of a mother being on the east coast, and her child is half way across the country, and she's awakened in the middle of the night thinking of her child, and finds out that the child was in a horrific accident.  It's not only common to know when someone passes, but when some event happens.  The bonds are like cords running between the people, and when something happens to a person that you have that kind of strong connection to, you do feel it, hear it, or even see it.

Barbara Spano Costante has shared with a picture with what appears to be a spirit holding a hand.

Street lights going off and then coming back on, is this a spirit doing this, and is it common?  Lori Robinson Ellis, if you can factor out that the street light is not shorting, then yes, it could be a spirit.  Spirits are able to use their energy to manipulate electrical things. I've even heard and experienced them turning on appliance, tvs, radios, things of that nature.  Early in my psychic awareness I turned a light on in the bathroom of my home, when I went to go out and turn the light off, it wouldn't go off.  I stood there dumbfounded for a few minutes, and listened, and was told that my gifts would be coming in stronger over the next few months.  So as to your question is it common, the resounding answer to that is yes.

Mary Sirakoulis wants to know if she has gifts, of a psychic nature?  I like to explain to people the way it has been explained to me through my spirit guides.  When God said he created man in his image, he didn't mean in the body, a physical likeness.  He meant with a spiritual likeness, and ability. In other words, when he said, let there be light, and there was light.  We have the same type of ability.  This power has been suppressed for thousands of years.  Why you might wonder?  Well, if all people know they have the ability to manifest and create what they want in their lives then they can't be controlled, and manipulated.  In recent times there have been people coming out and explaining this particular gift, calling it The Secret, The Law of Attraction, are good examples.  We can not only manifest things in our lives, but we have the ability to listen for guidance. You know, like when you hear that little voice that says, it's going to rain today, even though the sun is shining and the weather man says sun all day.  Then it rains.  Or you hear, don't take this road, it's going to be backed up, and you take it anyway, and the road is backed up.  When you start listening to that little voice, it gets louder.  Mary, you have gifts, you need to embrace them as your own, and become in tune with your guides, and you will be surprised and excited about what they show you.

Along the same line, Kim Pelletier, wants to know if there is a way to develop the skills.  Yes, there is.  Kim as I mentioned earlier, meditation is the key.  Now, whether you call it psychic, intuitive, psychic medium, I don't' particular like the term "fortune teller", too many negative connotations with that one.  It's been called seer and prophet.  The terms are changed with the times, but you get the idea.  Another really good thing to do is sit in a development circle or group, and to take workshops.  Depending on what your local area is, you can find workshops.  Sometimes it's fun to travel and take a whole weekend workshop.  If you have a group of friends, you create  development circle, which can be a lot of fun as well.  But never forget the your best tool is meditation.

Anniece Brown Andress has an orb, or spirit streaking through her forehead, thank you for sharing this.

Do we really have guardian angels? And if we do, is it only one, or many?  And are they family members that have passed from earth, inquires Suzette Dubois.  You've asked so many good ones here, Suzette.  Yes, we have guardian angels.  The way I explain this is, each of us has a team.  We have guardian angels, spirit guides, and loved ones that have passed.  Now, depending on what is going on in your life as to which one steps up for you.  They always try to guide us and show us the right direction to go in.  But we live in a free will zone, and they are forbidden from taking that away from us.  In order to "help" us with a situation, we have to ask them. Where they are allowed to step in without permission is if you are going to be in some event that causes death, and you have a purpose and the death would be untimely to meeting that purpose, they go out of their way to make sure that doesn't happen.  Loved ones can help us, either by us calling on them, or them seeing something that is going on that you are struggling with, and they try to let you know "which door to choose".  If a person is determined to make bad choices, they won't interfere with that.  Sometimes the way to learn the lesson is to actually step in it to know that it really is a big pile.  So, envision that you have an entire team working for and with you, and don't hesitate to call on them for help, guidance, and assistance, that's after all what they are there for.

Jody Pibil has shared that there have two years sober, and recovery, would like to know what grammy feels about addiction and recovery.  First, congratulations on your two years, and thank you for sharing it with us.  Grammy is proud of you.  Now, let me speak in general about addiction and recovery.  These can be attached to life lessons to any type of addiction.  In life there seem to be some addictions that are more acceptable than others.  Each of us has something that we can be addicted to, some addictions do more harm than others.  There are those that are psychological and therefore doing psychological damage.  And of course, there are the ones that are physically addicting as well as psychological.  Alcohol, substances, cigarettes, just to name a few.  No matter what the addiction, you need to take a look at it, ask yourself, what am I supposed to be learning from this. How can I change this? There is nothing wrong with needing help, asking for support, both spiritual support from your team (as discussed in the previous paragraph), or from people that are here on earth.  But make sure when you get people to help and support, that you are getting the right ones.  Ones that enable you to keep going with the addiction aren't necessarily the ones that can help you recover.  Learn the life lesson and then it will make recovery easier.

And I'd like to thank Cyndi Koerner for our closing picture of a beautiful sunset.

When someone passes can they see our entire lives, or just from the time of their passing? Kathy McFarland Milligan has asked a very good question.  Of course, people that pass go through their own life review, and so that encompasses people they've interacted with.  They can feel or know, so to speak, what it feels like to stand in the other person's shoes in situations.  Instead of having a front linear view of what has gone on, they are able to see a 360 degree view from all angles, and how each person felt in the situations.  They gain perspective that they didn't have when they were on earth.  They also have the ability to see things that are currently going on in their loved ones lives, and even the things that will show up in the future.  If they think they can be of some sort of help in those things, they will try to guide in the right direction, but without interfering with free-will.  And events that people believe their loved ones in heaven are missing, they are not missing, they can see them, and oftentimes show up and give signs that they are there.

As always, I've enjoyed answering your questions, as they can pertain to many people.  If you are interested in having a psychic reading, or a psychic medium reading, get in touch.  You can look at my website, www.heavencallingearth.com, email pam@heavencallingearth.com; or call to set up an appointment.  Until next time, I send you love and light.

Ask Psychic Medium Pam Jenkins Questions

It's been a while, so hello.  I've missed you and missed writing for you.  As I'm sure you've guessed, it's been pretty busy.  After putting it out there on the Heaven Calling Earth fan page on Facebook, I found that there are quite a number of questions people would like to have answered about psychic readings, and psychic medium readings and the information that has come through to me through the years.  The answers that I share here or from the years of doing readings, and through meditation.  As always, take with you what resonates, and just leave the rest.

"What are our loved ones seeing, and what are their surroundings?" Susan Mores.

Susan, this is a very good question.  The surroundings seem to change with individuals.  When they first arrive, there is usually a very bright light.  Then it would seem that our "earthly" belief system kicks in for a little while. In other words, if you have a belief that you are going to go through some pearly gates, you will see those, or if you believe there is a big meadow, then that will be your first experiences.  Then the longer one is on the other side, there is a "life" there as well, and it conforms to helping the soul grow.

"Can they hear us talking to them?" Remember, they are in the spirit realm now, so they can hear us when we speak out loud to them, and they can hear it when we think of them.  You know, like when you are having a conversation in your head.  I have people say to the effect, I'd like to make a phone call to heaven.  Well, when you have a psychic medium reading, in essence you are making a phone call to heaven.  When you set that intention in place, you are calling on your spirit guides, guardian angels and loved ones that have crossed over, and letting them know you have this planned.  I have found that in quite a large number of cases, the loved ones that have crossed over are the ones who have guided people to me in the first place. So, I would say they are well aware of your intention and desire to communicate with them.

"What signs do you look for to know if your child has psychic abilities, and how do you teach them to embrace it, versus being afraid or shutting it down?"  Freida Waugh.  A good question indeed.  First, we are all born with some degree of psychic abilities.  I call it our internal GPS.  That gut feeling, that knowing.  But there are some that are more psychic than others.  Key indicators that you are dealing with a child that is very psychic, or even psychic medium are sometimes the same types of signs that a child is an old soul.  A child that tells you a relative that has passed away before the child was born can be a sign, the child telling you they know the person, recognizes pictures of the person, or says this person comes to visit them.  Also, a child that is able to look at situations and very casually give an analysis or a solution to an issue that even an adult fails to see.  Most children do not even realize that they are seeing things (people that have crossed over) that others can't see until they are told that the others around them don't see what they see.  And along that same line, they don't know to be afraid of it, unless that fear is shown to them, or taught to them in some form or fashion.  Children that grow up around people who embrace these things have it easier than children who have people telling them it's wrong, or it's a sin.  Then the fear factor comes in, and the shutting down.  Teaching them to meditate as young as possible is always a good thing.

"What is heaven like, is it clouds, sunshine? Do we really know what it's like?" These questions have been asked many times and in many different ways.  The answer to this is very complex.  Is heaven in the clouds?  It is in the clouds, but it's further away than that, and yet closer than that at the same time.  As children we all have probably thought of God and the angels sitting in the clouds.  We've all looked the clouds and seen different shapes of things, and at some point it has been a message for us.  There is the spirit realm that co-exists with us, but in a different dimension, if you will.  But there's also the spiritual realm that's out in the Universe and the heavens that's out there beyond the clouds.   A statement that I was given one night while laying and contemplating, It's everywhere and yet it's nowhere, it's beside us, and yet a million miles away.  We are given answers like this because in our human language there are not words to completely and totally describe it in its entirety.

"What age are people that are in heaven?" Lone Vinding Malast.  In the psychic readings and psychic medium readings that I have done for people, the loved ones come across as the age they were when the left this earth so that their family and friends will recognize them.  We have bodies on earth, and they show themselves in these bodies (suit of clothes) when communicating with me.  That's merely to allow themselves to be recognized.  Also another element that is used is their personalities, their likes and dislikes.  The soul age is a different matter than the physical age that is on earth.  There are times when a person will feel as though a younger age of themselves would be more recognizable so they will come in that age.  But in heaven or the spirit realm we have no need for a physical body, that's an earth thing.

"Nana said 3:33, 12:12, and 1:11 means an ancestor is with you." Kathy Mallory.  This may well be the case.  I don't argue over a person's beliefs, because it is their truth, which is taught to them in their culture.  Different cultures mean there are different meanings to things.  I do know that seeing numbers in repetition also means there is a synchronicity that is happening.  Our relatives and ancestors do visit, and they do so more often than most people think.

And to finish off the edition of the blog, I give you an image of the word Believe.  "What signs do we look for?" as asked by Kellie Wilkins-Dorn.  Our loved ones give us many different kinds of signs.  They are able to manipulate energy, because we are energy.  Light bulbs flickering on and off, or burning out.  Causing a certain song to be played on the radio or tv.  They can make us feel a physical touch somewhere on our body.  Another one that they use frequently is our sense of smell.  You will smell a cologne, or cigarette smoke, or a particular type of tobacco that no one uses, except the loved one in heaven.  These are just a few of the signs that are used.  I encourage to you acknowledge your loved one's presence.  By doing so they know you're paying attention and will give you more.  Always remember, life doesn't end with death on earth, it just means it's beginning again in another dimension that we call heaven.  

If you're interested in booking an appointment for a reading, whether that is a psychic reading, or a psychic medium reading, you can contact me through email, pam@heavencallingearth.com, visit the website, www.heavencallingearth.com.  Don't forget to follow us on Facebook, and Twitter. 

Meditation, The Answer to Your Prayers.

     As we move into March and get closer to the spring and warm weather, I know everyone is looking forward it.  Most, if not, all of us are over the winter.  We seem to have been blasted really well with the snow, sleet and ice.  Now it's time to melt not only the cold weather, but our hearts and listen for the answers we are seeking.

    

     Often I am asked, how can I get my own answers?  Or, how do I get in tune with my spirit guides?  The key to this is always meditation.  Many people attempt meditation, but then quit out of frustration and an inability to quiet the mind and listen to that internal guidance.  I understand this frustration and the throwing up of the hands.  I'm brought back to a time in early adult life when I was asked by a gentleman, one I had a great deal of admiration and respect for, "How do you know when God answers your prayers?"  This question was a little surprising to me, but it was also an eye-opener to me.  The thought immediately running through my head was, "What do you mean, how do you know when God answers your prayers?  I hear him just like I hear you."  Then the voice in my head said, "Wow, God picked me!  I hear and see things other people don't hear."  Now, for some they consider it to be a curse, for me, I've always viewed it as a blessing.  Again, that feeling of "Wow, God picked me."  But then further, what did God pick me for?  To get the answers to that question I knew I would have to listen closely.  

     There are those that can go into a meditation and journey without a moment of thought.  Then there are those who I will call, "wheel spinners".  What is a wheel spinner?  My definition of that is a person that when they try go to that place of quiet, calm, and relaxation in order to listen for their guidance, or their answers, they immediately start thinking of all the things they need to do.  This list can range anywhere from buying groceries, fixing meals, doing laundry, going shopping for something they need for the home.  It's the place in our mind where we've stored our to-do list.  In meditation we are not trying to access our to-do list, we are trying to access our spirit guides, and our higher-self, if you will.  

     First, I would like to say that prayer and meditation go hand in hand.  One is useless without the other.  Prayer is the method by which we let our needs and desires be known.  We are asking or requesting, that can be for something material, something emotional, an answer that seems to elude us, a need for a loved one to be healed, guidance on how to proceed in a desired goal.  The list can go on and on, it's endless the things that we pray for.  But make no mistake about it, prayer is just as essential as meditation.  For without making the request, or asking the questions there is no need for answers.  The answers come through the meditation.  

     So, now we proceed with going into a meditation.  Our environment for meditation is just as important.  You wouldn't or shouldn't meditate in a car while driving, or in a subway while riding the train.  These are examples of places that you need to be completely aware of what's going on around you at any given time.  Though there have been times in everyone's life when they have ended up in a place, and couldn't remember how the trip.  My opinion is that you should have a place to meditate that is calm and serene, you feel totally comfortable.  When getting ready to meditate I like to light a few candle,  and burn some incense.  It adds to the peacefulness of what I'm about to do.  This is totally up to each individual.  If you are a person who i s a wheel spinner, I'm sure you can understand why you wouldn't do a meditation in the middle of a coffee shop.

     Now to decide can I listen to metaphysical or new age music and get to where I want to go.  When a person meditates they are attempting to reach an alpha state in their mind.  This i s a state of your body, more or less, being asleep, and your mind is fully awake and aware.  After doing meditation for a period of time, you might actually feel the vibration in your body.  Some people hear their answers, and some actually see images, similar to having a dream, but in a completely awake and aware state of mind.  This is the type of meditation that everyone seeks to have.  If you don't get there on your first attempt, do not be discouraged.  It sometimes take a "wheel-spinner" up to two weeks to get there.  Do not fret, because with continued practice even the biggest "wheel-spinner" can accomplish.  Normally what I suggest to people who have a hard time quieting their minds is to start with a guided meditation, whether that is in a group setting, or by purchasing a CD that has a guided meditation on it.  Usually, you can get a CD like that for less than $20.  There are many guided meditations on the market.  Some of the people who have made guided meditations are James Van Praagh, Dr. Brian Weiss, John Edward, and that's just to name a few.  I have had great experiences with Dr. Weiss's CDs.  His are the ones that I recommend most often to my friends and clients.  You will find that once you have mastered the guided meditation, which basically guides you through the steps of relaxation, and journeying in your meditation, then you can move onto an instrumental piece to work with.  The reason the guided meditation works so well, is because instead of going right to your to-do place, you go to that alpha state by focusing on the guide's instructions.  

   When you get to the point where you wish to use instrumental pieces, then you will find pieces like Anugama's Shamanic Dreams II to be very nice to work with.  There are so many, and you need only do a little practice to find the pieces that you resonate with.  I suggest that you try several different artists before settling on the one that works best for you.  Enya, Enigma, Steven Halpern all have very nice pieces that have helped a great many people.  Find what works the best for you and use it.  

     As you meditate your answers can come to you through hearing what is being said to you, or even having psychic visions.  The more practice your meditation the better you will become at it.  As with anything, practice, practice, practice.  

     Remember, pray and make your requests, and then meditate to get your answers.  When you have reached a place of true connection, you know when the answers come you can trust them.  When you start trusting them and following that guidance you get more and more guidance and it be more and more clear.

    It is my hope that you find the answers you are seeking and that continued reading and following of this blog helps you find the love and light you are looking for.  Until we blog again, keep reaching for the stars and searching for your answers.  Don't forget to follow the blog and look me up on Facebook, Linkedin and Twitter.  You can visit me at www.heavencallingearth.com.  

    

Eternal Life, Reincarnation and Past Lives

     Welcome to 2014!  This year has so many great things to behold.  As we look forward to this new year ahead of us, I've been asked to look backwards and talk a bit about past lives, reincarnation and eternal life.  Let me start off by saying, in no way do I claim to an expert on this subject.  Really, I believe I'm in the infant stages of learning about it all.  As many of you are, I'm hungry for knowledge on the subject.    I believe that when we seek knowledge about these things our best friend can be reading.  Choose as many authors as you can, read as much as you can, take hold of what resonates with you and throw the rest back.

    

     My firm belief is that Life on Earth, is "school".  We are here to learn lessons, repay karmic lessons, and experience as much as we possibly can.  This has been my take on the subject for a long while now.  First, I believe very strongly that we do have eternal life.  The eternal life that is referenced in the Bible along with other books on the subject.  Part of the way we have eternal life is that we incarnate on earth, and we live through a lifetime, we finish that lifetime and we then "die" or "passover" into the spirit/heavenly realm.  Birth here is death in that realm, and death here is birth into that one, hence we are eternal.  A quote that I read a long time ago really resonated with me on that subject, it was "We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but we are spiritual beings having a human experience."  It lends a great definition for what and who we really are.  To understand things we have to use terms or words that we can understand in this dimension.  And there are so many things that there are no words to make us fully understand the other dimensions and realms that exist.  Many of you have probably heard of the Akashic Records.  The Akashic Records are the records for each soul and being and their lifetimes, their experiences, their karma.  It could also be called the The Book of Life, as it is referenced in the Bible.  

     A rather simplistic way that I've been shown how we do things in the spirit realm/heavenly dimension is that when we are planning an earthly lifetime, if you will, we sit down with what I will call guidance counselors, or an elders to go over what lessons we want to learn in the up coming lifetime.  Just like in high school, there are mandatory lessons/classes, and there are electives.  Patience is a mandatory lesson in every lifetime, and it comes up multiple times.  Some of the lessons include tolerance, service, and humility.  This is just to name a few.  I'm sure everyone is aware that the way we learn patience is to put in a position of having to wait for something.  When that lesson comes up we have a tendency to say, "hey, wait, I already learned that lesson. Can you hurry up and give me what I want now?"  Obviously, we haven't learned it as well as we may think we have.    How about tolerance, now this is one that can be learned in so many different ways.  You may come in being part of a group that hasn't been given that tolerance, it can be done through race, sexual orientation, disability, economic level.  There's no way I could possibly list all the ways that tolerance can come up in life lessons.  Service to others is another lesson.  You may learn it through having a child that has a disability, or a relative that gets a terminal illness, or by serving your country.  I believe you get the general idea here of how these things come up.  Just like school, if you don't get the lesson, pass it so to speak, you are going to repeat it.

    When you have something that keeps coming up, and you can't figure out why there is definitely a life lesson attached to it.  A good example of this is when a person keeps getting into abusive relationships.  Let's say there's a woman and she is with a guy who is an abuser, whether it's verbal abuse, emotional abuse, or physical abuse, there are a multitude of lessons that can be involved here.  I actually had a client that was in an abusive relationship for a number of years.  After a big altercation where she was choked she ended the relationship.  She was moving along very nicely and had, in fact, met a man who was wonderful to her.  For Valentine's he bought her an iPod and loaded it with love songs.  He treated like a true princess.  Shortly after Valentine's Day she ended the relationship and went back to the abuser.  In her mind and part of her being she was associating being loved with being abused.  The new guy wasn't abusing her, so therefore he couldn't really love her.  This association could have started anywhere.  It could have been from the relationship her parents had, or the one she had with her parents, it could have even come from a past lifetime.  In any event, her lesson here was to learn that abuse does not equal love.  Until she could break that definition and association in her mind then she would continue to look for love in abusive relationships.    This is a primary reason that when we have something that is going wrong in our life we need to look closely at it and determine what the lesson is, learn it, and be able to move onto the next one, and to happier times.

     These types of lessons bring us up to "soul mates".  I can't tell you the number of times I've had people ask me about when they will meet their "soul mate", or they think they have and it's just not working out the way they want it to.  We do not have just one "soul mate".  From everything I've been shown, and learned from others as well, is that we travel in soul groups.    In these soul groups we agree to learn certain lessons together.  Before we go to the romantic end of that, lets explore other parts of those soul agreements.  For instance, you have a drunk driver and he/she hits a car full of teenagers and kills them, or disables or maims them.  While the agreement is not in the forefront of the conscious mind, there was an agreement to go through this lesson or lessons for all involved.  There's also the possibility of it being attached to a karmic repayment.  If in a past life you were an abuser, you may come into your next life being on the other side of the abuse.  If you were the abuser this time you may be the abused.  

     Another area of question is the fact that souls do not have a sex.  In any given lifetime we choose what sex we will be.  Also the relationships can change around in lifetimes.  You may be the mother in one lifetime, a brother or sister in another or a friend.  A husband and wife in one lifetime maybe nothing more than friends in another.  When there has been a very strong connection when you come into contact in the current lifetime you will feel a very strong magnetic pull toward each other.  That magnetic pull may draw you close, and it can be one sided.  It's good to be mindful of that.  There are so many things that come into play, it would have been beneficial if we came with an instruction manuel.  But I guess that's the whole point, to learn the lessons.  As our souls get older, we may remember, or it's considered to be awakening.  It's not a matter of finding out who we are, but remembering who we are.  

      There are many authors on this subject.  Dr. Brian Weiss is one I would consider an expert on the subject.  He has written many books on the subject, offers guided meditation, or self hypnosis  CDs, as well as conducting workshops on the matter.  His first book is Many Masters Many Lives.  A few of the others books are Through Time Into Healing, Same Soul Different Body, Love is Eternal.  A meditation CD that I recommend frequently to my clients is Mirrors In Time.   Ian Stephenson has written Life Before Life, and Children Who Remember Previous Lives.  I also enjoyed Tom Shroder's book Old Souls.  If you are looking other books just do a search of past lives, reincarnation and the like, you will come up with an endless list.  Do your own research and enjoy the study.  Take what resonates with you and toss the rest back.  Most of all enter in with an open mind and heart.

     I've been asked that as a psychic medium am I able to see past lives for a person.  There are times when it will come up in a psychic reading, or a psychic medium reading.  When it comes up it is because the knowledge gained from it can help you currently.  If you are really interested in searching out knowledge of your past lives, you can do a past life regression.  Doing a regression can be very beneficial in helping learn and remember who you really are.

     When we remember we are here to learn life lessons, repay karma, and experience as much as we possibly can it gives a whole new perspective on eternal life, past lives, and soul mates.  Let us all remember and realize that the biggest lesson of all that we are here to learn is Unconditional Love.  Until next time, I send you Universal Love and Light.  

Questions Asked of Psychic Medium Pam Jenkins

Well, it's been while since we last blogged.  Lots has of things have been happening and many are searching for answers.  In this entry I've decided to answer a few questions that seem to be of interest to a number of people.  I want to preface this with saying these answers are based on what I've been shown, what I've been told, and my feelings that are combined with those things.  In no way do I ever want anyone to feel that I think I have all the answers.  It is my humble opinion that not one of us has all the answers.  Each of us is shown a piece of the puzzle, and that piece is taken into what our experiences are.  I read a book once that talked about when we are young our truth is like a seed that has been planted, and not yet sprouted, as we grow physically, emotionally, psychically, and spiritually that truth grows and expands much like a flower.  That flower cannot reach the peak of it's bloom until we have left this earth and then have the total picture.  So as much as I share here in the answers to these questions that have been posed to me, please understand, I want you to take what resonates with you, and just throw the rest back.  When a truth vibrates with you and then you understand it to be your truth, then you know it.  When it doesn't, then it is not your truth.  So these answers are my truth as I know it.

The first question that has been asked, and I have had this come up many times in many readings, Do our pets go to heaven?  Our pets are living breathing beings, they have souls, just as we do. When they die here on earth, they too, go into the heavenly realm.  They interact with us in heaven, and they try to bring messages through for us that they have left behind, as much as any human does.  They know we mourn their loss, and know that we grieve.  They don't speak when giving messages anymore than they speak human language here, but they bring through their personalities, they show things they have done here. Also there are psychics who specialize in animal communication, but they also come through to psychics and psychic mediums who do not specialize in it.  We have come to realize that our domesticated animals get the same illnesses that humans do.  They get cancer, heart disease, arthritis, leukemia, glaucoma, cataracts, and the like.  And these are just a few of the things that our animals can get.  They get these diseases much in the same ways that we do.  Any being that can suffer can also feel joy.  I've been shown any number of times an animal coming through for someone who is missing their companion.  No matter what the pet is, if you have loved it and cared for it, you will be able to be reunited in heaven, just as you can be with the humans family and friends that have gone there before you.  So if you have a reading and the psychic is bringing through one of your pets, listen and see if that loving personality isn't coming through to show you, yes, animals go to heaven, too.

     And now to the question of, Do people who commit suicide go to heaven?  There here we embark on a controversial subject. It has been taught that when people commit suicide they have sinned against God, and therefore will go straight to hell, do not pass Go, do not collect $200.  This is in complete contrast to what I've seen and been shown through the years in doing psychic medium readings for people who are survivors of suicide.  I've been shown repeatedly that they have two very specific "jobs" they do once they transition and get acclimated to the spirit realm.  When someone commits suicide they break a contract in life, but they haven't made it so they are going to a place of forever damnation.  First they are greeted by what I will call the "welcoming committee".  This doesn't mean they have a big arrival party, because as you can imagine if someone has committed suicide they are in a great deal of pain to begin with, they are already in a very dark place.  It take a bit of time to adjust, if you will.  Upon arrival rest is given. Once that rest period is over they walk through a life review of sorts, looking at what caused the pain to be so severe that they just didn't see any other way out.  And being at a different level of view, let's call it a 360 degree view versus 180, they can see all around it, they can now see there were other choices that could have been made to make what was being experienced a much different outcome.

     After this review, there are two primary jobs that they prepare for.  Each of these two jobs is experienced by people that commit suicide.  There is the job of being part of the welcoming team, or transition team for people that commit suicide.  In other words, just like they were greeted when they first arrived, they become greeters of others that have done the same thing, taking their own life, or are in some way responsible for their own death.  The job, which is somewhat more difficult, is to act as spirit guides for people that are contemplating suicide.  Sometimes these guides are able to get through to someone who is considering suicide, and of course, other times they are not.  The times they are not able to get through to try and talk the person out of it is because the person is in such pain and anguish that they cannot hear, or feel the guide that is trying to get through.  When people commit suicide they have often been battling with depression.  Depression is a very dark hole that is real to the person experiencing it, and it's very difficult to hear people that are alive and speaking to them, let alone being able to tune in and hear a spirit guide trying to stop them.  But there are times when the spirit guide is so strong they are successful, and that is sometimes accomplished by working with someone else that is involved in the person's life and can be guided to help them.  So, I will end this answer with saying, please understand that while they are not condemned to damnation, there is special work for them to do before they choose whether or not to incarnate on earth again to work through whatever broken contract they left unfinished.

     The next question I have been asked to address is, Do children grow up in heaven when they have passed as either a baby or a small child?  I can't say that I have a conclusive answer on this, but what when a child or baby comes to comfort that parent, they will show themselves so that the parent will recognize them, but at the same time it's a matter of the age of the soul, not the age of the child when they passed.  So they are able to bring things through for the person when have a psychic medium reading that will let the grieving parent know that they are okay, and that they came here for a specific purpose and that they accomplished that purpose in the short time that they lived.  While that doesn't take away the pain of the loss, it certainly can and does help heal some of it.  And again, know that you will again get to be with that soul, with that child, and you will see and know them.  It's a knowing on a soul level.  A reference that I have been given to use to put it in terms that we can understand, would be to watch the movie What Dreams May Come with Robin Williams.  Of course, there is the Hollywood aspect in the movie, but I've been told that this is a depiction that can help us understand how we will recognize those souls when we reach the spirit realm.
   
     So,  Do they miss us as much as we miss them?  Missing would be considered a negative emotion, and there are no negative emotions in the heavenly spirit realm.  The missing is on our part from the loss of that loved one that we so enjoyed their company, their time with us.  We miss being able to hear their voice, see their face, smell their scent.  There is no pain there, and missing is a sort of pain.  Our loved ones do try to comfort us by letting us know that they are still around.  If there has been a break in the relationship, or if some wrong has not been corrected or apologized in life, I have had a spirit come through to try to apologize or ask forgiveness for their part in it.  When forgiveness is given it heals not only them, but the person here.  That's not always something that the person here is ready to do, and it's in the timing of the person here, because the soul in spirit is usually ready to apologize.  They can see things from a perspective that they were unable to embrace while they were here on earth.   While they may not deserve forgiveness, that forgiveness gives the person here peace and solace, and helps to heal so that the cycle does not continue.

  And people want to know, When we communicate with our loved ones in spirit, are we keeping them from something?  We know things in linear time here on earth, and there is no such thing as linear time in the spirit realm.  Things are instantaneous and constant in the spirit realm.  In a moment they can be with us, and a moment later doing whatever work they need to do there in that realm.  Much like we have a life here, there is life there.  It's just not bogged down with the need for finances and other such trivial stuff.  It's truly about growth there, and it's solely about the soul, pun intended.  There's no way we can keep a soul from doing what they are needing to do. So worry not about your communication keeping them from being where they need to be, or doing what they need to do.  If they are communicating with you, or visiting with you, that's what they need to be doing in that moment.

     I thank you for reading the blog by a psychic medium who knows she doesn't have all the answers, but feels blessed to believe she has some of the answers that help people.  Take the answers that help you, and the ones that don't make sense to you, just throw them back.  I hope this blog helps you, and helps you heal any pain that you may be feeling from the loss of a loved one.  Know that they are not missing the events in your life, they can see all, and know all that you are experiencing.  If you have other questions you would like me to address in the blog in the future, please send an email to pam@heavencallingearth.com.  Take time to stop by the website, www.heavencallingearth.com.  For now, I send to each of you Universal Love and Light.www.heavencallingearth.com

Are the TV shows about Psychics and Mediums Accurate?

  Hello again to all my loyal friends, and fans.  A subject that has come up a number of times in the last few months is about televisions shows involving psychics or psychic mediums.  I've been asked if the ways things are shown is real or is it all made up.   The main purposes of my blog is educate those interested about psychics, psychic mediums, and all things associated with psychic readings and psychic medium readings.

   My earliest memory of psychics being on TV was Miss Cleo and the Psychic Readers Network, and then there was Dione Warwick and the Psychic Friends Network.  I don't know what your opinion may have been of those infomercials, but mine certainly weren't of a positive nature. Both were commercials and infomercials about call-in lines for psychic predictions, and psychic readings.  Of course, there were many jokes and generalizations about psychics and the work that they do.  This was not a good foundation for psychic phone readings to be based on.

  We've come a long way since that time, in both education about psychics.  As I have written before, not all are good, not all are bad.  And since the timing of Psychic Readers Network and Psychic Friends Network, there have been several psychic mediums who have done television shows that has done as much good for the reputation of the work, as those first two did to damage it.  John Edward's show, Crossing Over, and then there was Beyond with James Van Praagh.  People were able to watch members of the audiences get readings from these two mediums and see how connecting with their loved ones worked.  Not only were the members of the audiences brought to tears, but television audiences wept as well, hoping to possibly to be able to make that connection with their own loved ones.  

  And then came the television series that were put on.  They were put on as entertainment, but my belief is that they also helped to educate people.  Keeping in mind that there is, of course, the "Hollywood" aspect of the show, and there is also a foundation, if you will, of truth in some of it.  And how much reality there was in the show depended on which show you might have been watching.  Let me start with Charmed, which was a show about three sisters who got their powers back after the death of their grandmother, "Grams."  Phoebe was the psychic sister, who was able to see things that were yet to come.  She had the gift of precognition, which means to see things before they happen.  The way in which her precognitive abilities were shown is by her touching someone or something and seeing the impending trouble.  Because the premise of the show was that the girls were always fighting against demons, Phoebe rarely saw good things coming in the future.  The act of touching something or someone and getting a premonition is the element that is not necessary.  I'm not saying that it is not possible, I'm saying it's not necessary.  Touching someone or something and getting information about the object or the person is called psychometry.  As the girls grew closer, their gifts grew as well.  Phoebe then received the gift of empathy.  Being an empath means feeling what another person feels.  Having this gift can be overwhelming, especially if you are unaware of having it,  and that in turn causes an inability to control it.  An example of how an empath picks up things from others is, an empath can be in a room full of people, everyone is happy and having a good time.  The next thing that happens is that another person walks into the room and she happens to be very angry, the energy in the room changes dramatically.  The empath will pick up on this and feel the anger raging in his or herself. I'm sure you have felt something similar to this in the past.  This is one of the ways that a psychic or medium gets information, either about the person who has died, or the person having the reading.  The psychic is able to differentiate what they are feeling is associated with the dead person, or the person having the session.  I'm not going to go into the gifts that Piper, or Prue had in this blog.  While they did have some gifts that psychics and mediums have, the vast majority of theirs were for show, literally.

  The next show I would like to talk about is Ghost Whisperer, with Jennifer Love Hewitt as Melinda Gordon.  Melinda was able to see, hear, and communicate with "ghosts" in the show.  In reality there are some souls that have not moved into the light because they have unfinished business.  Psychic Mediums are able to see, hear, and feel things from a soul that is communicating with them, so this is the part of the show that was real.  Again, the "Hollywood" aspect of this show is that number of times that this happens in one small town.  James Van Praagh was the Co-executive Producer on this show.  Having him on board certainly helped to keep this show closer to psychic mediums experience.

  Then we have the show Medium, which is based on the life of Allison Dubois.  Allison is another psychic medium.  In the show when a case needs to be solved Allison had a "dream" which gives her clues to lead to what happened.  Reality is that mediums do at times get information that can be helpful to law enforcement in solving a crime, or helping to find a missing person.  For the most part, mediums do not have dreams every night that are connected to their readings.  There are psychics and mediums who at times get information about things that either have happened, or are going to happen, and the information can be helpful to law enforcement.  Just as there are in all walks of life, there are law enforcement officers who believe in the gifts that psychics have, and are willing to use those tips to help solve a crime or find a missing person.  For many reasons, most of which are obvious, law enforcement will not come out and acknowledge that this is a practice that is used in their departments.  but psychics are used in situations similar to that of a confidential informant.

  All in all, the more recent television shows that have been based on, or feature a psychic or a psychic medium as based on some foundation of truth. In other words, some of the things that are portrayed are true and accurate, others are exaggerated for entertainment purposes.  And if you are thinking about having a reading you should decide what is the purpose for having a reading, if it is for entertainment purposes, you and a few of your friends are doing it just for a "hoot" as they say, then you can just pick any one you want, and "remember" you were doing it for fun, and keep it perspective.  If you are, however, doing it because you have lost a loved one, or you are experiencing a life situation that you need guidance in, then do your research first.  Talk to a friend who has spoken to one, search on-line and read as much as you can about the person you are going to make an appointment with.  Learn what the tell tale signs are of a scammer, Is Your Psychic Real or a Scam?  You can also visit a site that Bob Olson has created to help people find a good psychic or psychic medium, http://www.bestpsychicdirectory.com.  Seeing a psychic for fun is one thing, and seeing one for healing and help is completely different.  Make sure you select the right one for you.

  Until next time, Love and Light to you all.